ACCEPTANCE

 ACCEPTANCE

I know, this is vague. But do you ever walk through the halls of a school building or across a campus and feel insecure? I do. Every day. "Is my hair okay?", "Does this make me look disgusting?", "Did that guy laugh at me?". Well, maybe my hair poofed, and maybe that guy DID laugh at me. But I turn the other cheek. Because I accept myself. 

I know, that's also unlikely. And some of you are probably thinking "but how does that apply to me?". Simple. It applies to everyone. Acceptance isn't just about making sure other people like you. It's about making sure YOU like you. You should be able to look in the mirror and say "Yeah! I got this!". Not an easy thing to do. I know from experience.

Here's an example:

A few kids were being bullied. Getting called "fat" and "fag". In order to exact revenge, they made a fake profile on Facebook. Not a huge deal. It started with a little teasing. Then it escalated. The problem was quickly rectified. But I got to talk to one of the kids. And it made me less upset about the situation. These kids were sad and feeling abused verbally. They felt helpless. And I had to listen to this. I've been there. I was once the kid who walked the halls of her school being picked on and judged for her appearance. I've felt the stinging words of "fatty", "ugly", "dumbas*". It hurt so much. But watching the reaction of the kid I talked to, I knew I could tell him the words I never got to hear.

"You are loved"

Words I was longing to hear, but never had the mentor to tell me. So here I am, at my computer, trying to help these kids understand how much people care about them. Things get tough. Every day, kids and adults alike walk around and hear the snide remarks of others. And I'm not going to blather on about "the bullies being jealous or insecure" because I'm sure that's been said a bazillion times before. Yes, the bullies are probably insecure, but they make a choice to harass others. 

You can rise above it though. You, the reader, are a good person. I'm sure of it. If you've taken time to read this little bit of information, then you probably know a bit more than you came into this note with. However, even though you can accept yourself, others won't necessarily do the same. People won't change just because your perception does. I know that sucks, but it'll be okay.

It took until I got into college to see that my own opinion is the only one that matters. People who are truly worth your time won't care how you look. They'll accept you for you. And that's what truly matters.

So, with that, message me with any questions about this topic or to request another one. 

Remember: YOU ARE AMAZING.

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